Me and My Disability: My thoughts on the Katie Price, Harvey and Me Documentary

I watched the Harvey price documentary this morning about his transition into Adulthood and the tough choices Katie Price (Harvey’s mum) has to make about the next stage in her sons life. I loved that Harvey was involved in the whole process of finding his perfect residential college. I was disgusted to learn that Katie got so much hate for making this decision to give Harvey his independence and ability to be an adult, at the end of the day if Katie, his current school and doctors didn’t think that Harey would cope in living in a residential school for adults (Which he already does at his current school from Monday to Friday with twice daily facetime’s from his mum and exceeds his educational expectations) I’m a 100% sure she wouldn’t put her son in such a vulnerable position (Or any mother of a disabled adult for that matter) At the end of the day she wants to see her son happy and have experiences that any able bodied man has but, at the same time it’s tailored to his needs. She wants Harvey to be seen and treated like an adult with additional needs like any parent of a disabled adult. She doesn’t want to see Harvey infantilised all his life and neither does he. There is a very fine line between helping somebody with additional medical needs and being condescending, people need to take the time to listen to what a person needs and wants rather than restrict them. (Unless it’s an issue of safety) Katie has said previously that Harvey doesn’t like being called a boy and is quite vocal about his likes, dislikes and triggers and just wants to find him a place that takes that into consideration and again promote, social and independent living skills.

I was disgusted to learn that if the situation arises where the council don’t accept
funding for specialist schools, the local can place Harvey in a college that meets his needs but within their budget. However if Harvey is seen to be a danger to himself or others th3 local authority has the power to send Harvey to a mental Health unit and sectioned
or an ACU and kept in confinement. Katie spoke to a mum who’s son was sectioned and kept in a unit for five years and in some cases for others ten years. This young mans family weren’t even allowed to bring in family photographs! In a coincidence Harvey and this young man share a doctor who freed the young man from this facility. He is now happy and at residential school playing football.

I was horrified to learn that chemical restraint is still used in 2020 and even physical restraint. When Katie did her research she found one adult wasn’t let out unless they were quiet and for some people with learning difficulties being alone can cause anxiety and in one case a child with sensory deprivation disorder started biting the wood on the door frame out of desperation. How is this allowed in the UK in 2020?! It’s positively archaic! I would expect this from the Ukrainian or Russia but not Britain!

I am very grateful to report that since this documentary, the UK government have outlawed the sectioning of disabled adults purely due to their disability.

Going back to Harvey and Katie, I can’t believe some of the things I’ve read from trolls

that she’s ‘abandoning her child’ and other depraved opinions. They need to look at the facts; Harvey has additional and complex medical needs and in the UK sometimes

people get lost in the system or forgotten and left to cope. Katie by including Harvey

In all his future care decisions is ultimately giving him a voice and letting him have a thriving adult hood.

She doesn’t want her son lost in the system or have to reach crisis point with caring for her son with his behavioural issues, she’s giving her son the best opportunities and care she can so he can be Harvey and see him thrive!

I’m so glad like Harvey my parents are giving me a chance to thrive, be independent and make my own mistakes in the world. Lots of people will disagree about me moving out and living independently with carers and a PA rather than take the stance of many parents and keep me sheltered and over protected.

If you’ve got a disability and have a chance at independence, please grab it at every opportunity you can. However, that’s not to say I don’t recognise that not all disabled people have a chance of independence and be reliant on family and medical staff all their lives, you’ve got to do what’s best for you and consider your circumstances and situation. If you’re offered help please take it and don’t be a martyr because you could put yourself at risk not just physically and mentally. All I am saying is however a small or big amount of independence you have, use it! I know it may seem scary for both your parents and yourself but, it won’t always feel like that. To finish with an analogy; Sometimes if we’re not allowed to venture up the creek without a paddle, we’ll never know how resourceful we can be and never discover our capabilities

The documentary is available to watch now on BBC Iplayer.

Katie took the time to reply to me after I shared my initial thoughts on the film on Twitter. Katie, if you’re reading this, thank you so much ❤️

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